Once I’d started on my personal decluttering journey one of my new found pleasures in life was purging.
Yes, using up that last little bit of something, before I replaced it.
I remember how my mum would pour vinegar into the ketchup bottle to help swill out those bits stuck to the side.
There’s a whole movement called Project Panning who rejoice in using up their make-up and sharing pictures of when they ‘hit pan’ – which basically means the bottom of the case, of say a blusher, starts to show through.
Followers will only ‘Buy’ when they’ve finally said a proper ‘Bye’ by using up the product. A stricter version is Project 10 Pan Challenge for which you have use up ten products before you buy a new one.
Panners often focus on one product, such as a body butter, and use it up rather than having half a dozen on the go.
I think the same thinking can be applied to everything we consume.
It’s weird but when I’ve found I’ve given my children too much choice they demand more choice. Take breakfast cereals – half eaten packets of Shreddies, Weetabix, Rice Crispies, Multigrain Shapes, and Strawberry Crunch would take up loads of room on the shelves feeling insulted when my girls said they didn’t like any of them. Now I give my daughters the choice of two. And I refuse to replace either until one is finished. The girls have quit whinging.
It’s so tempting to stock pile these days, with 2 for 1 offers, which can be great money savers but do ask yourself if you really need it or if you’re buying it as someone is giving you a gentle push. And actually have room to store it?
I believe bulk buying can be a great way to save money (and the environment if it means less packaging) but it has to be planned and not done on a whim otherwise you’ll find yourself buried in loo roll and choking on Cheerios.
So take stock of what you have, by gathering duplicates into one place (from jam to sun tan lotion) and promise to only BUY until you’ve said BYE. It’s satisfying and your bank balance will be happy too.
We’ve all done it as we’ve followed the floor arrows round Ikea. We’re thinking about Swedish Meatballs and mindlessly grab a bag of Bevara clips (the name is Swedish for ‘preserve’), convinced we only have a few left.
But the niggling thought that they’re made of plastic so will take billions of years to degrade so can’t just disintegrate, stopped me buying more on my last visit.
So when I returned home I did a quick 5-minute declutter of THAT kitchen drawer which holds all the storage stuff like foil, clingfilm, bags and elastic bands. And yes – there they all were – snuffling around at the bottom with the thousands of white wire ties which we never ever use but my husband insists on keeping.
Yes – one of the many pleasures I get from decluttering is it encourages you to take stock.
If you gather all things of a the same category into one place it’s often surprising what you find. Who knew you actually had:
27 rolls of half used sellotape
8 opened but unfinished bottles of suntan lotion which will be out of date next time the sun reappears
A gallon of free shampoo and shower gel in 47 little plastic bottles
Enough plasters to cover every inch of skin of my 9 year old daughter
Well, it was almost this bad…
These are often items you buy or squirrel away ‘just in case’ you might run out of – as you’ve lost track of what you actually have.
And once you’ve understood you never need to buy another plastic polly pocket again, and you’ve given all the wandering items a designated place TOGETHER, the purging can begin…
This is another immensely satisfying path to follow on a decluttering journey which I plan to blog about soon.
What have you found you’ve an abundance of in your home?
Today I had the pleasure of working with the photographer Matt Radcliffe, and his lovely wife Janine, to declutter and sort their wardrobes.
Whilst I was there Matt took these great shots of me in action which show some of the process. (As it’s my blog I’ve edited out all the shots where I look like my mum and my hands are super wrinkled…)
So first we got all the clothes out.
Then we discussed what to keep and what to donate to charity
Then we grouped all the clothes in like piles – so t-shirts, jumpers, trousers (or pants as they’re called up here)…
Then we did a second edit. Most people get tired at this point and want to give up!
We then put back the clothes in a logical order which meant hanging skirts, dresses, shirts and blouses (together in sections) in the wardrobe and then folding t-shirts, jumpers, sportswear and jeans and putting them in the drawers.
I taught them the Marie Kondo folding method…
Which meant Matt and Janine could easily see what clothes they had and fit more into the drawers – which didn’t matter too much as they actually had far less to fit back into them.
We bagged up all the clothes and all the excess coat hangers which were no longer needed.
Then we loaded all the bags into the back of my car to deliver to a local Oxfam Shop. Janine said this was the best bit.
When we arrived and opened the car boot for the big reveal the man working there said we’d made his day ….
Matt was so relaxed and chatty throughout the whole process I forgot he was taking pictures – which is what you want if you hate having your photo taken like me.
Christmas can be a stressful time and being surrounded by piles of new stuff adds to the mayhem. Research by anthropologists reveals clutter makes people feel anxious, helpless and overwhelmed so it’s a good idea to anticipate and avoid gift saturation point.
In our house children are banned from mentioning Christmas until after Bonfire night so when they were little on 6th November when they brought up the C word, I’d remind them of The Santa Bag. He brings it a week before Christmas to fill up with toys to deliver to children all round the world. Now the kids are older we ask them to fill a bag for the charity shop before they can expect to get anything new.
In previous years I’ve made the mistake of quantity over quality feeling the pressure to supply a big pile of gifts, a large component of which were panic waste of money nonsense. Then I’d witness present fatigue as the kids stormed through the pile of wrapped presents flinging each to one side to reach for the next. It was clear there was too much.
I’ve now learnt to manage my kid’s expectations in terms of the actual gifts they are going receive. We tell them they can have something to read, something they need, something to wear, something they want and something to share.
Something they need could be a new duvet cover or an alarm clock, so they don’t need to have their mobile phones in their bedrooms to wake them up. The wear part can be a pair of trainers they’ve been coveting or an impractical party dress. Sharing presents are family games or activities which bring us all together rather than isolating the children in their bedrooms. If the something they want is just too expensive don’t be afraid to tell them so. They’re children – they’ll get over it.
As it’s often the anticipation that’s more exciting that the actual gift, instead of the children just coming down to a pile of presents we try to prolong the whole rigmarole by hiding gifts around the house. To get extra excitement to young ones call this a Treasure Hunt.
We also hide Christmas Promises. These hand-written age-appropriate ‘coupons’ are placed in little envelopes (think the sort florists use) and are to be redeemed when the children want. These are all about spending time rather than money on them so maybe a movie night at home (they get to choose the film and snack), after school deluxe hot chocolate, stay up an hour later than usual, a pamper night, a friend for a sleepover, ice-cream for breakfast or an after dark supermarket trip in their pyjamas. Top hits have included a bag full of two pence coins to spend at an arcade and a recipe with money attached so they shopped and paid for the ingredients themselves.
Invest money in memories not stuff. These experiences can be anything from tickets to shows or events, trips to a splash park, going bowling or iceskating to rock climbing or go-carting. You can even work sheep with a Border Collie.
Give your kids a journal to record it all in. Or next Christmas you could compile a photo book, easily made online using the memories captured on your phone.
Gifts that keep on giving are also rewarding so think magazine or comic subscription; a cinema pass; or sport or art classes. Monthly subscription boxes themed round science, art or baking are another way to spread the love. If you adopt or sponsor an animal such as a guide dog you’ll receive regular updates in the post.
Consumable gifts like chocolate or a personalised can of squirty cream are good because they get used up. We’re a big fan of mug cake mixes as it least they require some effort to make rather than just being available to stuff into eager mouths.
Children love the traditions of Christmas so introduce some family ones. Our children always get a new pair of PJs or onesie on Christmas Eve. I’d have to buy them new ones anyway so I may as well make it special. We’ve also introduced a shopping trip to buy for gifts for those less privileged processed through schemes run by charities such as The Salvation Army and Family Action.
Children can then feel the pleasure of giving but also appreciate how lucky they actually are.